Cheating / Extramarital Affairs

Here at NYCSAT, we have helped countless people who would like to stop their compulsive behavior of continuously cheating on their spouse and getting involved in  extramarital affairs. 

While the behavior of repeatedly engaging in online and extramarital affairs does not necessarily mean somebody is addicted to sex, it could indicate sex addiction. Of course, people engage in extramarital affairs for all kinds of reasons. However, if your behavior feels compulsive and you experience a powerlessness over your behavior you could be suffering from sexual addiction.

Some people who struggle with sex addiction and repeatedly engage in extra marital affairs, surprisingly can also struggle from sexual anorexia (Sexual anorexia is a pathological loss of interest in romantic and intimate sexual interaction stemming from a  fear of intimacy). He or she may find it easy to be sexual with strangers or one-night stands, but terrified to attempt any kind of sexual intimacy with their spouse or partner. 

So how do you know if you suffer from sex addiction?

• If you repeatedly spend more time than you want online looking for sex and love 
• If you continuously getting involved in extramarital affairs even though you promised yourself you would stop
• If you constantly seek out a next conquest even though your are in a committed relationship
• If you continue these behaviors despite significant negative consequences in your life
• If you are obsessed or preoccupied with a person or certain activities when you should be focused on other aspects of your life
• If you are using sex to cover up other emotional needs
• If you repeatedly rationalize your extramarital sexual behavior and downplay its importance or effect on your relationship or marriage 
• If you view people as objects for personal gratification without ever developing true intimacy